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blending a family is so very hard on kids. their hopes and dreams that mommy and daddy will get back together are crushed, and there really is rarely anything better than one's own mommy and daddy under the same roof. i wish adults understood that when they make stupid choices.
oddly enough, it is another death in my hopes and dreams, too. i never wanted to be divorced; neither did my Country Man. but we don't get to make all the choices in our lives.
when Eve and Adam ate from the tree of knowledge of good and evil, they really bombed, big time.
God tells us it is best for a man to remain with the wife of his youth (or his first wife; or do not get divorced), and there's a reason for that. too often people just skip over that not realizing that to not remain with one's wife, or husband, from their youth, is to eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil. once knowledge is acquired, it cannot be removed ... and then it's too late ... and what was so enticing and mouth-watering at one moment turns into something terribly evil and disgusting the next.
it is hard to make the hard, right, choices in a marriage. boy howdy, sometimes it's really hard. all the enticements of Satan light up in glamorous neon lights, and the fruit of that tree seems sooo irresistible. then one chooses the neon lights to the hard choices ... and the knowledge of good and evil is acquired ... and it's too late.
what really stinks about that is that for one to eat of that fruit, they impose the knowledge of good and evil on many others around them ... it's not just theirs; it's shared. by default, it is shared.
my Country Man is an incredible man! how blessed i am! if only we'd met first and only known each other ... and had all our kids together ... but, alas, tis was not to be. so choices were made, and we are both privy to the knowledge of good and evil.
and that is all so depressing that it makes one just want to jump off a cliff and end it all. it seems so ... final ... and reeks of death.
BUT! that is NOT all there is! Jesus did not simply become man and live a perfect life and die on the cross for our sins, but He rose again and is alive! sure, there's the knowledge of good and evil, BUT JESUS CONQUERED THE EVIL AND SQUASHED AND SMUSHED IT ALL TO PIECES WHEN HE ROSE FROM THE GRAVE AND SPAT IN THE FACE OF DEATH!
so, because of New Life through Christ Jesus our Lord, my Country Man and i know there is healing to be found ... for us, and for our kids. it's a long and gruelling and treacherous path, the path toward healing, but so was Jesus' death on the cross. and when we reach the end, when we endure the long and gruelling and treacherous path of pain and reach the healing, we realize the Life of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ who is ALIVE and able to give us that Life!
divorce sucks. it always will. but there is hope out there for those of us who have had to partake of that fruit of the knowledge of good and evil, and that hope is the reality and Truth of Jesus Christ, alive and Sovereign and Holy and Just ... and that Truth sets us free, to live.
